The “Perfect Victim” Myth
Media often portrays survivors of domestic violence in narrow, unrealistic ways – having no emotional connection to the abuser, showing physical injuries, or reamining calm and passive. This contributes to the myth of the “perfect victim.” In reality, violence doesn’t always look like its depiction in media. Physical markings, strangers jumping out of the van, and “someone saving the day” is not always how abuse unfolds. Real-life violence can be subtle, complex, and committed by people the survivor knows and may even love.
What Real Survivors Look Like
Survivors come from all walks of life and experience abuse in different ways. Some stay in relationships out of fear of losing their children, because they love their partner, or lack the resources needed to leave. Survivors are often dismissed, stories are not believed and are blamed for not fitting the perfect victim mold.
What We Need from the Media
The media can support empowerment advocacy strategies by including content warnings on sensitive content and centering survivor voices with consent. Avoid blame-based framing and focus on the full complexity of abuse, not just the spectacle.
Survivor Centered Media Matters
When the media reports on domestic violence, it doesn’t just inform – it shapes public opinion. Too often, survivors are retraumatized by exaggerated coverage that focuses more on drama than healing. We must shift the narrative.
Instead of sensationalizing pain, the media should amplify survivor voices, highlight systemic issues, and promote resources for support and recovery. Responsible reporting can educate the public, challenge harmful myths, and help create a culture that believes and supports survivors.
A Reminder to DV Agencies and DV Service Providers
DV agencies cannot speak on an individual case without explicity, written informed consent given by the client. This includes if the client has passed away. The estate of the deceased may be able to give consent to share information via written informed Resease of Info documentation.
DV Service Providers should not speak on individual cases and instead focus on the services they offer. This is because any survivors viewing an agency disclosing information regarding an individual case could steer them away from using their services in the future.
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