We lead the state’s movement to end domestic violence and to enhance work with survivors through collaborations, innovative trainings, prevention, technical assistance, state policy development and legal advocacy.

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Outside of regular business hours? Want to talk to someone right now? Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, available 24/7. TTY: 1-800-787-3224

 
 

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  rWho We Serve

We believe it is critical to serve all domestic violence (DV) survivors. We help survivors regardless of race, age, socioeconomic or ethnic group, sexual orientation, gender identity, mental & physical abilities, religious & spiritual beliefs, and immigration status. We can work together to create individual, institutional, and cultural change. We work intentionally and actively to create safe spaces for survivors of DV. The voice and experience of survivors is the foundation of our work. We believe the domestic violence movement can change society.

how-to-find-helpHow to Find Help

If you need immediate assistance, dial 911. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE). Your safety is the most important thing. There are service providers throughout North Carolina who are ready to assist you. This site also provides resources and tips to help you. Here you can learn more about domestic violence and see frequently asked questions we receive. When you are seeking help, remember if you don't get what you need at first, keep trying! There are many people and organizations in our state who want to help you. Find a service provider in NC to get the support you seek. 

support-our-causeSupport Our Cause

We need your help, too. Your support will go directly to NCCADV programming that assists victims of violence in gaining and maintaining their freedom from abuse. It will support parents fighting to protect their children from an abusive partner or ex-partner within the custody court system. It will also support NCCADV's public policy efforts to educate national and state leaders on the issue of domestic violence and influencing national and state legislation, policy and funding decisions that keep victims of violence safe. You can donate online here

This list serves as a memorial to the victims of domestic violence and their surviving families. It also shows the deadly impact domestic violence has here in North Carolina. We thank the media, advocates, allies, and surviving family members who help us with this project. To inform NCCADV of a death that is the result of intimate partner violence but is not listed, please email us at dvhomicides@nccadv.org.

We hope that by raising awareness of the deadliness of this crime that legislators and other policy makers with the power to strengthen protections for victims will be educated about the lethality of domestic violence and moved to enact protections so that others will be saved. 

Currently NCCADV tracks deaths which are a result of intimate partner violence. Our annual list honoring victims includes both victims killed directly by their current or former intimate partner as well third parties who are killed as a result of intimate partner violence. Intimate partners include both same-sex and opposite sex intimate partners. 

 

NCCADV Comprehensive Homicide Report 2002-2010

 

NC Department of Public Safety Domestic Violence Homicide Reports

The NC Department of Public Safety (NC DPS) also releases a report that provides information about domestic violence homicides in North Carolina. Under a state law enacted in 2007, law enforcement agencies are required annually to report to the State Bureau of Investigation homicides in which the offender had a personal relationship to the victim as defined by Chapter 50B-1(b) of the NC General Statutes. The NC DPS analyzes these reports and releases a summary report each year providing statewide statistics on domestic violence and family violence homicides. Those Domestic Violence Homicide reports are available on NC DPS website. NCCADV supports honoring the families and victims in family violence homicides and acknowledging the devastating impact these homicides have on individuals, families and communities. Because the NC DPS releases a report capturing this data, beginning in 2011, NCCADV shifted our reporting from including family violence homicides on our website to reporting on intimate partner homicide. We support the Department of Public Safety’s efforts to maintain this database and capture this data. 

 

NC Violent Death Reporting System

The North Carolina Violent Death Reporting System (NC-VDRS) also collects data on deaths that result from violence, including domestic violence homicides. NC-VDRS has collected data since 2004 and uses medical examiner records, vital statistics and law enforcement reports to capture domestic violence related homicides among North Carolina residents. Because data is collected from multiple sources, these reports are generally released 2 years after the calendar year in which homicides were perpetrated. Fact sheets can be found on the NC Health and Human Resources website.

 

Disclaimer

NCCADV has collected information on domestic violence homicides in North Carolina since January 1, 2002. Information is gathered from public sources, primarily from media reports. This information is not intended to be an official record of all domestic violence homicides and family violence homicides in prior years in North Carolina for the time period covered. Homicides are included based on case specific information that demonstrates a correlation between intimate partner violence and the death of the victim. Nothing included in this information is intended to represent a legal standard of guilt or innocence. Please contact NCCADV if there is a homicide not listed that should be considered for inclusion on this website. 

children dv 1Children are often considered the “hidden” victims in families where domestic violence occurs. Studies have estimated that 3.3 - 10 million children witness domestic violence each year. Children, like their adult caregivers, experience trauma from the physical and verbal abuse in the home.

Children can display a variety of behaviors due to witnessing domestic violence and those behaviors can affect their ability to be successful in school and other social settings. Also, 30% to 60% of perpetrators of domestic violence abuse children in the household.

Impact of Exposure to Domestic Violence

Newborn to 5

  • Sleep and/or eating disruptions
  • Withdrawal/lack of responsiveness
  • Intense/pronounced separation anxiety
  • Inconsolable crying
  • Developmental regression, loss of acquired skills
  • Intense anxiety, worries, and/or new fears
  • Increased aggression and/or impulsive behavior

Ages 6 to 11

  • Nightmares, sleep disruptions
  • Aggression and difficulty with peer relationships in school
  • Difficulty with concentration and task completion in school
  • Withdrawal and/or emotional numbing
  • School avoidance and/or truancy

Ages 12 to 18

  • Antisocial behavior
  • School failure
    Impulsive and/or reckless behavior, e.g.,
    • School truancy
    • Substance abuse
    • Running away
    • Involvement in violent or abusive dating relationships
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Withdrawal

*Adapted from National Child Traumatic Stress Network

Programs to Help Children

There are a number of evidenced based programs that can help children, such as The Incredible Years. Trauma-informed therapies like Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Parent Child Interaction Therapy have been shown to be effective in helping children who have experienced a trauma like witnessing domestic violence.

The major emphases for children's healing in these programs and therapies are:

  • increasing a child’s sense of physical and emotional safety 
  • developing self-esteem and stronger social skills
  • developing respect for others
  • fostering a sense of control of one’s life

Resources

Following are resources on children's exposure to domestic violence, treatment, and prevention:

The National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN)
Provides conceptual content, symptoms and evidenced-based interventions to support children affected by exposure to domestic violence. NCTSN is a resource base offering technical assistance and information to professionals and communities seeking to address needs of children and families in the context of trauma including domestic violence, natural disaster, traumatic grief, etc.

Prevent Child Abuse North Carolina
A statewide agency invested in evidenced-based programming that reduces risks for child maltreatment and supports the strengthening of families through implementation support to communities around North Carolina.

Center for Child and Family Health (CCFH)
A Durham, North Carolina-based interagency collaborative of specialists providing preventative, diagnostic and treatment services to children and families facing social, emotional and behavioral difficulties.

North Carolina Child Treatment Program (NC-CTP)
A program tailored to build capacity to serve traumatized children and families by training clinicians to provide evidence-based therapeutic interventions to children and families and sustain roster of county-specific trained clinicians available to treat children affected by sexual abuse and trauma in North Carolina.

Futures Without Violence and Promising Futures
A national organization that supports the work of ending abuse of children and women by contributing prevention and intervention programs, curricula, toolkits, DVDs, policy and legislative updates. Futures Without Violence has also created the Promising Futures website, specifically dedicated to sharing best practices for assisting children and families affected by domestic violence.

Child Welfare Information Gateway
A federal clearinghouse of research materials, prevention and practices relevant to strengthening families, child welfare, and intersecting issues such as domestic violence and mental health. Website is maintained under the auspice of U.S. Department of Health and Human Services- Administration for Children and Families.

National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma and Mental Health (NCDVTMH) - 10-Part Series: Building Trauma-Informed Services for Children, Youth, and Parents Impacted by Domestic Violence
NCDVTMH is a nationally recognized resource center providing technical assistance, training and consultation to increase allied professionals' capacity to serve adults and children affected by domestic violence. NCDVTMH is hosting a webinar series geared towards advocates and mental health clinicians working with children and caregivers impacted by domestic violence. Parts of the webinar series are archived and available for download.

Honor Our Voices
An interactive learning module to increase community awareness of the impact of domestic violence from a child’s perspective at various ages.

Evidence Based Practices for Children Exposed to Violence: A Selection from Federal Databases
A roster of mostly evidence-based primary and secondary prevention programs and therapeutic modalities to address exposure to violence, arranged by the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention.

Disclaimer: These programs need a strong implementation structure. Inquiring agencies should be in consultation with an appropriate resource base to assure fidelity of services and programs.

 

FVPSA 

Thank You to the NC Council for Women and Youth Involvement-Family Violence Prevention Services Act Program for financial support.

We list our collected information on domestic violence homicides in NC here. 

On September 14, 2016, 67 out of 86 identified domestic violence programs in North Carolina participated in the National Census of Domestic Violence Services. See the North Carolina summary here.

See the most recent statistical data for domestic violence and sexual assault services utilized in NC in the NC Council for Women 2015-2016 report.

Visit the NC Council for Women website for data from prior years and further details on its reports.  

National Statistics on Domestic Violence

  • On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million people.     
  • Every 9 seconds in the US, a woman is assaulted or beaten.   
  • Intimate partner violence accounts for 15% of all violent crime.     
  • 19% of domestic violence involves a weapon. 

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. "Domestic Violence National Statistics." National Coalition Against Domestic Violence. September 11, 2015. (accessed August 25, 2016).

College and University

  • 43% of dating college women report experiencing some violent and abusive dating behaviors43% of dating college women report experiencing some violent and abusive dating behaviorsincluding physical, sexual, tech, verbal or controlling abuse (Knowledge Networks, 2011).
  • 1 in 5 college women (22%) report physical abuse, sexual abuse, or threats of physical violence (knowledge Networks, 2011). The same study also revealed that more than half of college students surveyed (57%) said that it’s difficult to identify dating abuse and 58% said that they don’t know what to do to help someone who is a victim of dating abuse.
  • More than 40% of LGBTQ+ college students (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer,More than 40% of LGBTQ+ college students (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer,questioning and other non-heterosexual identities) report that they have experienced inter-personal violence (IPV) intheir current relationships, a rate that generally aligns with the rate of violence amongheterosexual couples (Edwards & Sylaska, 2014)

Learn more about our college and university work to make campuses safer for all students.

 

Here are frequently asked questions related to domestic violence:

1) What is domestic violence?

Domestic violence is a pattern of intentionally violent and/or controlling behavior used against a family member or a dating/intimate partner to gain power and control over that person, during and/or after the relationship. Domestic violence is also known as family violence, intimate partner violence, or dating violence.

2) How common is domestic violence?

In 2016, there were 82 domestic violence homicides in North Carolina. Nationally, 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have experienced some form of physical abuse by an intimate partner. But because domestic violence can look different with different people, it can be hard to estimate exact numbers.

3) Who is affected by domestic violence?

Some people are at greater risk for experiencing domestic violence. This includes people who:

  • identify as female
  • live in communities with fewer resources
  • experience societal oppression or marginalization
  • were exposed to violence in their family of origin

Learn more about domestic violence risk factors here.

See rates of domestic violence in certain racial/ethnic groups.

4) How does domestic violence affect people?

The impacts of domestic violence are long lasting. Domestic violence affects people in different ways at different stages of the abuse. Many areas of a survivor’s life can be affected by domestic violence, including:

  • Physical and emotional health
  • Relationships with others - including co-workers, neighbors, children, other family members, and friends
  • Career and job prospects
  • Financial and housing stability

Learn more about the effects of domestic violence here. 

5) What are some warning signs of domestic violence?

Domestic violence doesn’t always look the same in every situation. Family violence can often look very different than violence in a dating or intimate relationship. Yet because domestic violence centers around power and control, there are usually some common features. Warning signs often include:

  • Inequality between the people involved (i.e. the abusive person shows a lack of respect or concern for the other person)
  • Lack of choice (i.e. the abusive person makes most of the decisions or doesn’t listen when the other person says or indicates “no”)
  • Fear or uncertainty (i.e. one person feeling “on guard” or afraid because of the abusive person’s unpredictable behavior or language
  • Suspicion or lack of trust (i.e. the abusive person constantly demanding that the other person prove themselves or account for their whereabouts or behavior)

Learn some common signs of an abusive partner here.

If you or a loved one are experiencing domestic violence and need assistance, you can:

  • Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline anytime at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.
  • Text HOME to 741741 from anywhere in the US, anytime, to talk via text about any type of crisis including domestic violence.
  • Get help from one of the service providers in NC.